Thursday 21 May 2015

Too hard? Too soft? Or Just right?

My little nieces are coming for a sleepover this weekend and, for the second time only, their toddler brother. Along with the bedtime stories required before they will settle down, Aunty Jane has learned that she now has to give not just two but three sets of hand and foot massages. 
Goldilocks style, I always ask them if it's too hard, too soft or just right. It's so important with children not to apply heavy pressure. That's also the case with adults.

How many of us have had 'No pain, no gain' instilled into us? Or we think 'I can bear it', 'it must be working' or 'She's the expert' when really your body knows it's counter productively too much?

The central topic on the 'Treating trauma and vulnerability' Shiatsu training I went on in March surprised me. It was not learning the most calming pressure points or gentle techniques. It was simply how to encourage people to give feedback.

Many studies have shown that healing best occurs when the body and mind are relaxed, such as in deep sleep and holistic treatments. Insensitive, overly firm or invasive treatment will trigger the 'fight, flight or freeze' defence response. Feeling safely supported and not a victim of having something 'done to you' allows your energy flow to open up again for rebalancing, reconnecting and tension release.

Shiatsu and Meridian Massage allow you to take responsibility for your own health whilst being supported. That equal partnership between therapist and client includes the encouragement to say 'too much, not enough or just right.'